When we talk about being "ruined" in the context of love, we aren’t talking about destruction in the physical sense. We are talking about the dismantling of the version of ourselves we liked best. The Anatomy of the "Deep Ruin"
She might have ruined who you were , but she doesn’t get to decide who you become . The depth of the ruin is often an indicator of your capacity to feel. And if you can feel that much pain, you eventually have the capacity to feel that much peace again—just with a different, more careful heart. she ruined me, deeper
You did not come with a hammer. You came with a key. You unlocked the door, walked past the furniture of my life, and went straight for the basement. When we talk about being "ruined" in the